Try outlining a large circular shape with your fingers at a slower rate. Or, caress in a smaller pattern and pick up your speed. This is a process of mutual exploration. As long you’re both enjoying yourselves and communicating consent, that’s what matters most.
Avoid grabbing at the other person’s body. Instead, use your fingertips or an open palm to lightly feel around. If you’re feeling stuck, try softly moving your fingertips in small, circular shapes, figure eights, or simply back and forth.
Closed eyes, pleasant expressions, and heavy breathing are all great signs. In this case, keep your sensual caresses exactly the same. Watch out for head nods and eye contact. This is another signal that your caress is working magic. With platonic caresses, a simple smile should tell you everything you need to know. It’s also more likely that your friend would simply tell you.
“Do you like this? Is there anything I can do differently?” “How does it feel when I move my fingers like this?” “Do you like it when I move my fingers this slow?”
Someone may respond with a phrase like, “That’s great. Just like that. " When you get a positive response, try to keep your movements exactly as they are. Other times, someone might ask you to adjust your sensual caressing. They might ask you to touch them lighter, harder, in a new place, or in a new way. Listen and adjust to their preferences. This way, you can fine-tune your caresses to exactly what the other person likes best.
For pleasure, try caressing the chest, inner and upper thighs, navel, buttocks, and finally, the groin. For platonic comfort, go with the back, knees, face, hair, and even feet.
If you’re interested in friendly, non-sexual caressing, eye contact can still foster a connection.
If creating sexual excitement is your goal, focus on the ears as well. While you’re playing with the hair, lightly brush your fingertips over them. If you’re just friends, this can also be a sweet way to bond. Focus on the same gentle movements as mentioned above and consider stroking their hair as well.
By lightly brushing your fingertips along the middle of the back, you can go for a platonic, comforting caress instead.
To connect with someone platonically, stick to an arm around the hip. Or, brush your fingers along their sides. With friends, definitely avoid touching the navel area. This could read as a sexual touch.
Just remember, the area you’re caressing is very sensitive, so be gentle—unless they ask you not to be.
“Hey, can I caress you here?” “Let me know if you want me to stop. ” “Can I move my hand over here?”
