“I got lunch at Fambrini’s the other day and it made me think of you. How are you?” “I know it’s been a bit since we last talked, but I just had to share this meme I knew you’d love. ” “Thought of you yesterday when ‘Dancing Queen’ came on. What have you been up to?” Smartphones sometimes bring up “memory” photos from the past. That could be a great thing to send over to her. [3] X Expert Source Connell BarrettDating Coach Expert Interview. 24 September 2019.
“Congrats on the big promotion—you deserve it. How’re you feeling now that you’re the boss?” “Hey, I heard you finally moved to Chicago! How do you like city life?” If she doesn’t have any major life updates, bring up a smaller update you’ve seen social media like, “Hey, I saw the pic from your niece’s recital. She’s gotten so big! How old is she now?”[4] X Research source
“Rylee! I know this is weird, but what was the name of that Portuguese restaurant downtown?” “Hey, hope you’re well. Do you still have the recipe for the amazing vegetarian casserole you made?” “Hi! Is there any chance you have Tommy’s number from high school?”
“I just realized it’s college admissions season. Has your sister chosen a school?!” “Hey! I wanted to ask how apartment hunting went. Did you find a good place?” “I was thinking about planning a trip to Japan. Did you end up going last summer?”
“I just realized it’s college admissions season. Has your sister chosen a school?!” “Hey! I wanted to ask how apartment hunting went. Did you find a good place?” “I was thinking about planning a trip to Japan. Did you end up going last summer?”
“I tried Ghanian food last night. You were right, it’s incredible. Hope you’re having fun in Portland. ” “I went to a sports bar with some buddies the other night and they were impressed at my Raiders trivia knowledge. I told them it was all thanks to you. I hope you’re doing well. ” “You were right about South San Francisco. They have surprisingly good sushi. Hope you’re not missing it too much living in Colorado. ”
“I know things didn’t work out, but I miss being friends with you. Let me know if and when you want to talk. ” “Hey! I wanted to tell you that I’m still here for you. I’ll always be your friend. ”[7] X Expert Source Connell BarrettDating Coach Expert Interview. 24 September 2019. “No pressure, but I still care about you, and I’d love to be friends if you’re down. ”
“Hey—I’d love to catch up if you’re in town. Would you want to go on a walk sometime?” “Hi, Samantha! Are you free for coffee on Sunday? 100% no pressure, and this would be just as friends. ” “Hey, you just crossed my mind the other day. How would you feel about grabbing coffee and catching up sometime this week?”
“I messed things up with us. I’m so sorry and it’s so clear to me now. Could we meet up so I can apologize in person?” “I know it’s years later, but I still can’t believe how I treated you. I took you for granted, and I know that now. Would you be willing to talk so we can clear the air?” “I understand if I’m the last person you want to hear from. But I’m so genuinely sorry for how I acted when we were together. Could I buy you a coffee and apologize?”
“Do you ever miss when we were together? To be totally honest, I do. ” “I know this is a lot, but I still have feelings for you. Is there any chance you feel the same way?” “Hey, I’ve been missing you lately. Do you ever miss what we had?”
“I miss cooking dinner with you and even doing laundry together. I miss pretty much everything about you. Would you give us a second chance?" “Hey, I miss you and I miss being with you. I’ve changed and grown a lot over the last few months. Would you be willing to give it another shot?” “I know things didn’t end the way either of us wanted. I’ve been doing a ton of reflection this past year. If you’re willing to try again, let me know. ” “Hey, I’m interested in rekindling what we had, or seeing if there’s still a spark there. Would you like to have a drink sometime?"[11] X Expert Source Connell BarrettDating Coach Expert Interview. 24 September 2019.
“I know it’s over between us, but I’d like to talk through some things so we can both heal. You know where to find me if you’re willing to talk. ” “Hey, I know it’s been a while. But I feel like we left a lot of things unsaid, and I’d love to give us the chance to get closure. Let me know if you’d like to talk. ” “I still think about how we left things. I wish we could meet up and talk about what went wrong. I’m not expecting to get back together—I’d just like to get closure. Would you be willing to talk?”
