“In case you’re wondering: if you wanted to text me without waiting three days, you absolutely can. ” “Oh, wow! I was just about to delete this app, and then I saw you. How convenient!” Whatever your first text says, use proper spelling and grammar. Guys react better to a properly spelled-out message when you’re still getting to know them. [2] X Research source Don’t reveal too much personal information about yourself at first. You’re still getting to know this guy; there will be time for more in-depth sharing later, and ideally, in person. [3] X Research source
“Guess which emoji I put next to your name in my contacts? 🤔” “Tell me about your day using only emojis! 😆” “What emoji do you think describes me?” However you use emojis, make sure there’s context in the beginning—a string of emojis without an explanation can be confusing for your texting partner!
“Why do I find this picture so funny?! 😂 ” “Why should you tell an actor to break a leg? Can you guess? . . . Because every play has a cast!” “Quick, send me the last meme you saved on your phone!”
“I love Mediterranean food, but I feel like I’ve tried everything! 😫 Any ideas on where to look?” “I saw on your profile that you’re a fan of The Weeknd! Which songs do you recommend I listen to first?” “I haven’t found anything like Game of Thrones since it ended. Do you know about any similar shows I could get hooked on?” No matter what, keep the question light and fun, and give him time to answer—no need to start grilling him right off the bat!
“LOVE seeing pictures of peoples’ pets, cats especially. Care to share any?” “You have a dog?! 😍 Ours could be friends! Send a pic of your puppy and I’ll send one too. ”
“What are your favorite hobbies?” “I see you’re a BTS fan too. Ever seen them in concert?!” “You’re a foodie? Okay, big question here! Pineapple on pizza: genius or tragedy? 🍕”
“Your sense of style is on point. You really have a knack for picking flattering outfits! 🔥” “Your smile makes me a little weak in the knees, you know!” “You seem really smart! How did you learn so much about world history?” Whatever you pick, make sure it’s a genuine compliment! You don’t want to say something generic just to get him to talk to you. You also don’t have to talk just about looks. Compliment him on his humor, for example.
“What are the top 5 things on your bucket list?” “What are you the best at?” You could also establish a consistent back-and-forth, so that both of you have the opportunity to ask questions and get to know one another. “Want to play a game? You ask a question, then I’ll ask a question!”
“I like to think I’m a bit of a coffee connoisseur. Do you know any places? Maybe we could check one out together!” “Your profile says you like horror movies, right? I do too, but I can never watch them alone! 😳 Want to keep me company and catch a movie at the theater this weekend?”
“Let’s skip the small talk and get right to flirting - what do you say? 😘” “What’s the cheesiest pick-up line you’ve ever heard? I want to see if I can beat it!”
When you do get a reply, don’t take too long to respond. Wait about an hour before you hit the “send” button again; replying instantly makes it seem like you’re overeager, and waiting until the next day tells him you’re not really interested. The best time to send a first text is in the afternoon or evening (generally between the hours of 1 PM and 8 PM). That way you won’t text too early or too late, and possibly wake him up. [15] X Research source
