For instance, instead of asking “Did you grow up here?” ask, “Where did you grow up?” Instead of asking, “Do you have a job?” ask, “What field are you in?”
“It’s been so warm lately, the sun feels so good!” “The Yankees have really been blowing it this season, haven’t they?” “I can’t believe how many people are moving to the city. ”
“Where’d you get that scarf? I love it!” “Your glasses are so cute. ” “Your hair is so curly, it looks amazing!”
“What’s the best Italian restaurant around here?” “I’ve been looking for a good bike trail to ride on. Do you know any spots?” “What’s the best time of day to hit up the beach? It always seems so crowded!”
“Did you hear about the big game yesterday? Go hogs!” “Are you going to visit the state fair this weekend? I heard there’s some awesome rides. ”
If they’re drinking a beer that you like, you could say, “Do you like that brewery? They make a great IPA that I love. ” If you pass by a restaurant, ask, “Have you been in there before? I’ve heard the seafood is really good, but I’ve never tried it. ”
For example, if someone tells you about their wife, you could say, “What does she do?” or, “How long have you two been married?” If someone tells you about the college they went to, you could ask, “What degree did you graduate with?” or, “Did you live in the dorms on campus?”
“I’ve lived in this area for 12 years now—my husband and I love it!” “Some people think my job is really boring, but I enjoy it. ” “I’m pretty wiped out from this weekend—my roller derby team had our first game last night. ”
“So, how do you know Sarah?” “Oh, you know Greg? That’s awesome; we grew up together!”
If the person you’re talking to yawns, glances around, or looks bored, it might be time to end the conversation.
This is especially important if you’re networking in a professional setting.
