If you also get angry, you may both hurt one another’s feelings. Plus, Aries may take the confrontation too seriously and assume you don’t care for him anymore. If you feel your temper rising, take several deep breaths and walk away if you need to.
When you pull back and give him space, it may help him see how anger worsened the situation. Your absence may also make him realize how valuable you are, and he’ll waste no time reaching out to you.
If you’re not sure whether he’s calmed down enough yet, it’s okay to check in gently or send him a casual text. “I just wanted to see how you’re feeling. Let me know if you’d like to talk or you still need time!”
“Can we talk? I’m committed to resolving this, and I want to know more about why you’re angry. " “I know you’re angry, but I feel like I don’t know the whole story. I’d like to get to the root of the issue if you’re willing to share with me. "
Avoid planning out what you’ll say next while he’s still talking. You might miss something important if you’re thinking instead of listening. Ruled by Mars, the planet of aggression, Aries is often combative when he thinks someone is arguing with him—he wants to win the fight at all costs. That’s why letting him vent is much more effective!
Use empathetic statements like, “Wow, I can see why you’re angry,” or, “I can only imagine how that must have made you feel!” To offer help, try, “That sounds really frustrating. I’d be upset if I were you, too. How can I support you?” If you make an effort to understand him, you might even find that there’s been a misunderstanding—which is hard to spot if you’re solely focused on your own perspective.
If he withdraws or pulls away from you, don’t force the physical contact—he may need more time to calm down first.
“I’m not blaming you for anything or judging the situation. I’m here to listen patiently. " “We don’t have to rush anything. There’s plenty of time to resolve things, and your concerns are valid. "
For example, “I’m sorry that I was late to our date night. I know you felt like I wasn’t respecting our time together, and that wasn’t my intention. I plan to be on time in the future because I want you to know how much I care. " “I’m sorry I broke your favorite mug—I know how important it was to you. What can I do to help fix this?”
Aries loves to be right, so recognize that it took a lot for him to admit he was in the wrong. He’ll appreciate you all the more for it. Forgiveness isn’t always easy, but holding on to resentment will hurt your relationship and drain your energy.
