This introversion means that they’re less likely to open up to you in return. You might enjoy a wonderful conversation with an INFJ, only to later realize you hardly learned anything about them.
You can find INFJs in a number of careers, but especially those in healthcare, teaching, or community organizing. Money is not as important to INFJs as it might be to other people. They tend to shy away from jobs that don’t give them a sense of humanitarian accomplishment, as working just for money burns them out.
However, INFJs do have a breaking point. If a relationship is beginning to feel overwhelming to an INFJ, their introvert tendencies can kick in, and they might drop the relationship or even ghost.
For example, an INFJ might wear plain turtlenecks, fitted button-down shirts, khakis, inexpensive jewelry, and other fashionable but minimalist items.
INFJs also have a very strict moral code. If they see someone intentionally harming another person, they’re likely to put aside their introvert tendencies to step in. You might catch an INFJ at a political organizing meeting or volunteering to help local communities.
If you’re trying to get to know an INFJ, be patient. Over time, when an INFJ feels like they can let their guard down around you, they’re less likely to find socializing with you to use up their energy.
To create a deeper connection with an INFJ, make sure you’re always honest. If an INFJ suspects that they can’t trust you, they’re likely to withdraw for good.
INFJs are readers by nature, and it’s pretty common to find them reading a book about a social cause that matters to them. Talking to them about what they’re reading is a great way to start a fascinating conversation.
Although there are other types that are eloquent writers, and INFJ is particularly passionate when talking about causes that matter to them. If you see a well-written op-ed or blog post advocating for some kind of positive social change, there’s a good chance it’s from an INFJ.
When talking to an INFJ, it’s important to offer them the same compassion they give others. Try not to let them feel like they’re “too sensitive,” since this is likely a painful subject for an INFJ.
Do you recharge with alone time (introversion) or by being with others (extraversion)? An INFJ is introverted. Do you spend your time thinking about abstract ideas (intuitive) or your daily reality (sensory)? An INFJ is intuitive. Are you more interested in logic (thinking) or in emotions (feeling)? An INFJ is feeling-oriented. Are you organized (judging) or do you have a more “let’s see what happens” approach (prospecting)? An INFJ is judging-oriented.
