Some cusp-ers tend to identify with one side of their personality over the other. If you’re sensing he’s more of a gentle dreamer type, that’s his Pisces nature. Pisces is a water sign, which means he’s all about emotion and empathy. [1] X Research source
If he’s quick to start a debate, he may be more in touch with his Aries side. Aries is a fire sign ruled by Mars, so conversations can sometimes take an aggressive turn. If that happens, it’s best to change the subject before things get heated.
“You’re artwork blows me away. Have you ever thought about showing your paintings in a gallery?” “It sounds like your work project went off without a hitch! You worked so hard on it and I definitely think you’ll get a promotion soon. "
If you had a rough day, you might say, “Work was so busy today and I’m exhausted. I love my job, though! Wouldn’t trade it for the world. " If the waiter brings you the wrong dish, you might say, “Normally, I’d send this entrée back, but it looks really good. I’m going to give it a try!”
If he gets suddenly gloomy, give him a hug and say, “I’m here if you need me. " If he starts getting worked up about something or seems irritated out of the blue, you might say, “I’m going to take the dog out for a walk and get some fresh air. Need anything?” Don’t press him to talk about it. Avoid calling attention to his mood swings; he dislikes being analyzed by others.
If he wants to take a sudden detour, agree with enthusiasm. If he wants to try a new activity out of the blue, let him know you’re game.
You might say, “I can’t decide if it’s the right time to trade in my car. It’s fully paid off, which is great, but it’s also getting old and might need significant maintenance soon. What do you think?”
If something unexpected happens and you’re running a few minutes late, text him to let him know so he isn’t sitting around wondering what’s going on.
“I know work was really busy this week and you didn’t get a chance to work on your new song. Since I have tons of boring errands to run today, why don’t you stay in and work on music?” “All of your short stories are so good. You should submit these to a literary magazine. You’re an amazing writer and I’m positive they’ll publish you. "
If he’s more of a gentle dreamer (Pisces), invite him to go forest bathing or pack a picnic to enjoy at the park. If he’s super energetic (Aries), suggest a challenging hike or mountain biking.
Don’t worry, he’ll eventually come around. He wants to do it in his own time and on his own terms.
