Your ex might even make vague comments about how it feels like you two are still a couple—this is his way of saying, “I don’t want it to be over. I miss you. "
If he’s missing you, he’ll block you on social media and erase all traces of you as a couple, so he doesn’t have to see reminders of you two at happier times.
If he broke up with you, you might be surprised that he’s suddenly communicating a lot more. He may have changed his mind and he’s regretting the breakup.
He may flaunt the new relationship in an attempt to make you jealous—this shows that he cares what you think.
By trash-talking you he’s trying to come to terms with his feelings. If he can bring up all the “bad” things about you, he’ll eventually be able to get over losing you. Calmly approach your ex and explain that it hurts to hear what he’s been saying. Ask him to stop saying harmful things behind your back. If he continues, just explain to friends and family that he’s taking the breakup hard and he’s trying to hurt your feelings.
Unfortunately, some guys lean toward harmful behaviors to numb the pain—he might start doing drugs, party all the time, or drink excessively. Remind yourself that you’re not responsible for his bad habits, but if you’re concerned, send him a short message urging him to get help.
If you’re still connected on social media, he’ll post racy pics of him with someone else because he’s trying to provoke you.
If you still see him occasionally, you might notice that he’s picked up bad habits that you broke him of—this can mean that he’s given up trying to improve things. It’s really important that you don’t blame yourself for your ex’s depression or low feelings. Remember, he’s responsible for his own emotions and creating a support network that’s there for him.
It is never okay for your ex to harm you in any way. Reach out to friends, family, or the authorities, so you can be safe from vengeful outbursts. To get help quickly, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or go to https://www. thehotline. org/.
It’s completely fine to accept his apology. However, he shouldn’t guilt you into getting back together. Remind yourself that he’ll heal in time and apologizing is just an early step in that process.
If you think he’s trying to get back together and you don’t want to, be sensitive but keep your distance. You don’t want to give him false hope that your relationship can be fixed. For instance, don’t agree to meet in person and talk for hours. Send short, clear messages about how you feel, so he can accept that the relationship is ending.
