If you haven’t made the relationship “official” yet If you’re unable to see them in person soon If you’re worried they won’t listen to you or take the news appropriately
“Hey Amber! I really enjoyed spending time with you last week. ” “Hi John, I’ve had a lovely time on our dates so far. ”
“I just can’t see us working out long-term. We want different things, so it’s probably best we go our separate ways. ” Or, “I don’t think we’re a match since we’re at different stages right now, but I wish you luck out there!”
“I just got out of a long-term thing, and so I’m not in a good emotional place to date right now. ” “I’m overwhelmed with work and school right now, and I don’t have the time to commit to someone. ”
Try something like, “I really like hanging out with you, but I’m getting more of a best friends vibe than a romantic one. ” “I’d love to hang out again, but platonically instead of romantically. ”
“I had a really fun time on our date, but I’m just not feeling a connection with you. ” Or, “I had such a good time on our dates, but I just didn’t feel a spark. ”
“I’m just not sure I see this lasting long-term. It seems like we have different goals in life, so I’m not sure we’d work out. ” “You have super cool life plans, but I can’t see myself in them. It might be best if we part ways now. ”
“I realized that I’m not ready for a relationship yet. I hope you can understand. ” “I need to focus on myself for now, so I think I’m going to stay single for a while. ”
Saying you’re sorry can send mixed signals or lead your ex to think that you’re in the wrong.
For instance, they might ask, “I’m confused, didn’t you have a good time?” You could answer with, “I did, but I see you as more of a friend than a romantic partner. ”
If they reach out to you again, it’s probably best to ignore their message.
