Is your date super into cooking? Sign up for a couple’s cooking class together. Is your date a foodie? Make reservations for the new brunch spot that just opened up. Does your date love roller coasters? Buy tickets to a theme park.
You could also try going to an arboretum, going bowling, or going mini golfing. Activities like these will create memories that you and your date can look back on fondly. Whatever you do, try to avoid a “Netflix and chill” situation. Although it’s the 4th date, you still want to put some effort into taking your date out and showing them a good time.
Feel free to set an agenda, but don’t be too rigid about sticking to a schedule. If you and your date find something fun to do along the way, feel free to jump on a spontaneous activity.
Hopefully, your date will do the same, and you can both be yourselves around each other from now on.
“Are you close with your family?” “Which of your friends do you spend the most time with?” “How’d you end up in [your city]?”
You might talk about your upbringing, your family, or your career prospects.
“Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” “Do you plan on staying in this area?” “Do you want kids one day?”
“What’s your favorite way to relax?” “What do you get up to on the weekends?” “How often do you like to travel?”
“You’re such a cool person. Who would let you get away?” “I’m curious: how long was your last relationship?”
“Are you seeing anyone else right now? Because I’m not. ” “Just wanted to let you know that I deleted my Tinder last night. ”
If you want to invite them to your place, say something like, “I had a really great day with you. Do you want to come back to my place for a drink?” If they decline, don’t take it personally. A lot of people like to wait until they’re in a committed relationship before having sex with their partner.
